A Safe Place Through Time — An Historical Perspective of Family Resources

December 28, 2012
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Orphans line up for church in 1912 in front of the Iowa Soldiers’ Orphans’ Home, later to be renamed the Annie Wittenmyer Home. Photo courtesy of Augustana College Special Collections.

The year is 1912, Sunday morning and time for church. Young orphans are rounded up and lined up in front of what is now our Administration building.

It’s a moment frozen in time, and when you look at the picture 100 years later, you can almost hear the orphanage staff telling the kids to line up – stop talking – quit fidgeting.

Children whose families couldn’t care for them – or whose parents had died – were brought to the Iowa Soldiers’ Orphans’ Home and received care and education so they could live productive lives despite the trauma of being separated from their families.

At the time this photo was taken, the orphanage had around 570 boys and girls. It was overcrowded and was underfunded. Costs for children were split by the county and the state, but the care of soldiers’ orphans was the sole responsibility of the state. The Home was given $12 a month per child, but costs exceeded revenue by at least $400 per month.

Thousands of children had already passed through the Home by the time the 1912 photo was taken. Thousands more would pass through during the following 50 to 60 years.

In 1949, the legislature renamed the orphanage the Iowa Annie Wittenmyer Home to honor the woman from Keokuk who was primarily responsible for starting it.

I look at the old photo now and realize that everyone standing there has lived their lives and are now gone. I look at the young faces and wonder what happened to them? Are their grandchildren still alive? Did they live happy lives?

Over time, as foster home and adoption programs flourished, the Annie Wittenmyer Home stopped being an orphanage and became more focused on group care for children with special problems in adapting to the normal community.

Today, Family Resources provides many more services to families in our area, but we still serve as a place for young people to receive care, treatment, and education to help them learn to live productive and happy lives. We call our Davenport grounds the Wittenmyer Youth Campus in honor of Annie. We also have offices in Dubuque, Clinton, Muscatine, Burlington and Moline to offer services to families that range from mental health counseling and family restoration to rape/sexual assault programs and Domestic Violence shelters.

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Children and their mothers from our Domestic Violence Shelter stand in front of Family Resources in 2012. We still provide a safe place 100 years later.

A few months ago, in the same spot where the orphans lined up for church in 1912, two families from our DV shelter stood after visiting our Administration building. Although it is 100 years later and the children we serve are no longer orphans, they still need a safe place, and that’s what we offer. I look at the faces in the 2012 photo and want them to live happy lives free from fear. I’m happy to report that at least one of these families is in a safe home of their own now, the mom has a job and is preparing to go back to school.

If you have followed the news in 2012, we have some of the same problems with funding as we did 100 years ago. We have had to make painful adjustments this year so we can keep moving forward. It helps to have the support of a caring community and generous donors who understand the legacy of the past 160 years and who know there will always be children, women and families who need a safe place to regroup, recover, and get back on track to achieve happy, productive lives.

So I get a little reflective as a year comes to an end, but as I look at the faces in the photos from 1912 and 2012, it’s obvious that – like an Olympic flame – we pick up the torch from one generation and carry it to the next.

If the past is any indication, Family Resources will be here far into the future. None of us will be here when a photo is taken in 2112, but if we do our jobs right, families that need a safe place will still be able to come here to find it. I can’t imagine a better legacy to leave behind and to carry forward into 2013.


It’s Raining Teddy Bears — Holiday Season Brings a Wave of Generosity

December 11, 2012
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Volunteers quickly collect bears thrown in the Teddy Bear Toss after the Mallards scored their first goal Friday night. The bears were donated to Family Resources.

There was a strange weather phenomenon at the Quad City Mallards hockey game Friday night. When the Mallards scored their first goal, the iWireless Center saw a shower of teddy bears rain down on the ice.

Family Resources was the recipient of this year’s Teddy Bear Toss, held by the Mallards to brighten the lives of children who could use the good cheer during the holiday season. Fans brought teddy bears to the game and were asked to throw them onto the ice when the Mallards scored their first goal.

A young fan prepares to toss a teddy bear onto the ice.

A young fan prepares to toss a teddy bear onto the ice after the Mallards scored their first goal.

Some of our staff were given tickets to attend the game, and they were surprised at the number of teddy bears that were tossed. It took a few minutes for volunteers to scoop them up so the game could continue.

The bears will be given to children who come to Family Resources for a variety of reasons, but always to find a safe place for healing, counseling, or education.

This week, the Davenport Police Union and Association are holding their annual Christmas Toy Drive and Fundraiser to benefit the Family Resources Domestic Violence Shelter and the families we serve.

You can take gifts and donations Monday through Friday to the following drop-off sites in Davenport:

  • US Adventure RV, 5120 N. Brady Street
  • Matt Sturdevant State Farm, 1903 Pershing Avenue
  • Davenport Police Department

On Saturday and Sunday, Davenport Police will be set up in front of JCPenney at North Park Mall to accept toys and donations. On Saturday, December 15, they will be set up from 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. On Sunday they will be set up from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m.

Members of the Burlington Junior Women's League with our staff at the Burlington office. From left to right: Nikki Jones, Michelle Cox, Jeanne Brus, Kendra Nichols, Kim Korschgen, Lucy Miller, Ashley Hazen, Julie Fitzpatrick, Sara Crozier, and Laura Harmon.

Members of the Burlington Junior Women’s League with our staff at the Burlington office. From left to right: Nikki Jones, Michelle Cox, Jeanne Brus, Kendra Nichols, Kim Korschgen, Lucy Miller, Ashley Hazen, Julie Fitzpatrick, Sara Crozier, and Laura Harmon.

In Burlington, nine of our families that are in crisis were “adopted” by the Burlington Junior Women’s League (BJWL). The women went shopping with wish lists, then wrapped the gifts and delivered them to the Family Resources Burlington office. This will make it a brighter holiday season for 30 children, women and men.

Last month we also reached out to businesses and individual donors in our community to “Adopt a Family for the Holidays.” Last year we were able to make the holidays a bit happier for 150 women and children through this program. The gifts have arrived from this year’s donors, and we’ll have some wrapping parties next week with photos on our Facebook page (www.facebook.com/famres). If you use Facebook, please “like” our page so you can remain updated on news and events in real time as they happen.

These are just a few examples of many donors and groups that have come forward to help our children, women and families this holiday season. Each of these activities could not be possible without the kind-hearted people in our region who understand that sometimes each of us needs a helping hand to help us rise above a rough period in our lives. And each of us at Family Resources understands that as we lift our clients to a better place, we are also being supported – by the people in the groups listed here and so many more who give throughout the year to support our mission.


Help Us Fill the Truck for Our Domestic Violence Shelters This Saturday, June 23

June 21, 2012

Some of our staff with DOVE committee members during last year’s Fill-the-Truck event.

An important event happens this Saturday. Trucks donated by Lujack’s will be at every Hy-Vee store in the Quad Cities and Muscatine collecting your donated items for survivors of domestic violence. Our shelters give women and their children a place to go to find safety and a new beginning.

We depend upon the community’s support. As you can imagine, it takes a lot of resources to help domestic violence survivors regain their balance and establish new lives. Many of them (primarily women and their children) arrive at our shelters with just the clothes they’re wearing.

Donated items may include the following:

  • Kitchen and Bath Items – Most needed: brooms, dust pans, utensils and paper products.
  • Cleaning Supplies – Most needed: cleaning wipes, disinfectant spray, floor cleaner and dish soaps.
  • Bed and Bath Linens – including blankets.
  • Baby & Toddler Supplies – NEW socks, underwear, onesies, children’s cold medicine, teething rings, bottles, pacifiers, bibs and bathing items, diapers (sizes 4, 5, and 6), wipes, lotions and powder.
  • Toiletries – hair care products (especially ethnic), deodorant, shampoo and lotion.
  • Small Home Items – trash cans, laundry baskets, alarm clocks, toasters, blenders, microwaves, can openers, coffee makers, dishes, pots and pans.
  • Over-the-Counter Medicine – antacids, acetaminophen, ibuprofen, cough syrup.
  • Monetary donations, gas cards and Hy-Vee gift cards.
  • Please – NO clothing or furniture.

When women and children come to our domestic violence shelters, they are escaping a dangerous situation. We’re fortunate to have a community that responds to our annual Fill-the-Truck event in a strong way.

Area businesses and organizations sponsor our event – Fill-the-Truck is the third and final activity related to the annual DOVE Women’s Golf Tournament. Employees from sponsors and other organizations volunteer at different locations to help load donations into the trucks. I’ll be at the Eastern Avenue/Kimberly Road Hy-Vee store on Saturday morning. If you bring your donated items to that store, please say hello.

Presenting sponsors of Fill-the-Truck include:

Media sponsors for the event include:

Wendy Navarro (right), our Domestic Violence Services Supervisor, on the set with Paula Sands during Paula Sands Live on KWQC-TV. We appreciate the support of local news media.

Yesterday, our Domestic Violence Services Supervisor Wendy Navarro appeared on Paula Sands Live on KWQC-TV6. Click this link to watch the segment online.

There are women and children right now in the Quad Cities and Muscatine area who are hurting and wondering where they can turn. They face a desperate situation, particularly when they don’t have the resources to live on their own. Because of our donors, Family Resources offers safety, support, and we coordinate community resources to build a life in which they no longer have to live in fear.


A Salute to Our Volunteers – We Couldn’t Do It Without Them

April 19, 2012

Volunteers help keep us moving forward, providing valuable services for Family Resources. On the United Way's Day of Caring last August, a group of Deere & Company employees came to help in a variety of ways, including painting some of the residence halls.

As you can see from some of the blog posts this week, we’ve had two of our big annual events in the past few days — the Opening Doors Gala in Davenport and New Beginnings in Muscatine. These were very successful events that drew hundreds of people and raised a lot of money for our Domestic Violence Shelters, domestic violence programs and New Beginnings fund.

Both of these events are successful because of the hard work of our volunteers.

This is National Volunteer Week. I believe we should always let them know how much we appreciate them, but since it’s the official Week, and in the wake of these two great events, it’s a good time to stop and give them a special message of thanks.

Family Resources has 300 volunteers who help us provide programs and services to those who need them. From mentoring youth to being on call for our victim services as hospitals and police stations call for our assistance  – we rely on the caring spirit, kindness, and hard work of our volunteers.

In fact, when you reflect on that number — 300 people in our community that would devote time and energy to our organization –it’s pretty amazing.

Some volunteers are called “episodic” volunteers. We can usually expect them to drop by for projects such as painting — the type of project that improves the atmosphere but takes time and energy. When volunteers help, it eases a lot of stress on our staff and provides other benefits, including a more pleasant and soothing place to live and work. It’s interesting what a positive impact even one coat of paint can make on children, clients, and staff.

Other volunteers can be seen more regularly, doing a variety of tasks that help us operate smoothly, including the victim services advocate who helps survivors build their future and holds their hands when they need it most, and the ladies who mentor our girls to teach them how to overcome adversity and strive for a successful future.

There are many more examples of selfless acts performed by volunteers who care deeply about people who need to find balance, safety, and a better way. These are stories I want to tell on this blog as we go forward.

Another volunteer group is our Board of Directors — made up of 12 volunteers from around the community, each bringing his or her own expertise and insights to the organization.

We also have four committees that organize our four major events: the Opening Doors Gala, New Beginnings, the DOVE Women’s Golf Tournament, and Honor the Women luncheon. Each committee has its own unique collection of skills and personalities, bringing together some of the community’s best and brightest, each working for a cause they care about.

At a time when funding is uncertain and the economy continues to struggle, the number of people who need our programs and services is growing larger, not smaller. Our volunteers help us keep moving forward. To each one of them, we say thank you.


Opening Doors Gala Raises $75,000 for Family Resources Domestic Violence Shelter

April 17, 2012

Jim Russell volunteered as auctioneer for our Opening Doors Gala, encouraging bidders as we raised $75,000 for our Domestic Violence Shelter.

Our Opening Doors Gala last Friday night at the Figge Art Museum brought together 250 of our friends and donors staff for a fun evening that raised $75,000 to benefit our Domestic Violence Shelter. We are very grateful for all those who made the Gala such great success!

The highlights of the evening included a live auction featuring Colorado resort vacations, luxury iWireless Center suites for upcoming events, and other items, and a silent auction was held throughout the evening as people bid on elaborately painted doors from area students.

Bidders raised their numbers, competing for some great items and donating to a serious cause.

Jim Russell served as the emcee and auctioneer for Friday’s event. Each person was given a number when they checked in, and they held up their numbers when they wanted to make a bid. There was a lot of laughter and action during the auction, as Jim walked through the hall encouraging people to give to bid higher. Everyone was aware that the real focus wasn’t the item they were bidding on — it’s the safety and support they would provide for women and children in the Quad Cities who — right now — are wondering where they will turn to escape a violent domestic situation.

Auction items included:

  • Three separate vacations at the Summit Peaks North Lodge about 60 miles west of Denver, Colorado, donated by Brad and Sandy Foreman.
  • Admission to the Wells Fargo Suite at the iWireless Center for the Ringling Brothers Circus, donated by Wells Fargo.
  • An exclusive Chicago White Sox package featuring an Alex Rios #51 signed bat, four game tickets, parking pass, and a special message on the scoreboard, donated by the Chicago White Sox.
  • 4 VIP Passes, parking, and the UnitedHealthcare Suite at the John Deere Classic, including Meet the Pro/Autograph opportunity and more, donated by John Deere Classic.
  • Admission to the Midland Information Resources Suite at the iWireless Center for the Jason Aldean concert, including 8 tickets and food, donated by Midland Information Resources.

Brad and Sandy Foreman donated three resort vacations in Colorado, which raised a total of $12,400 during the live auction.

Messages of hope, courage, and new beginnings were painted on doors by area students. The doors were donated by Habitat for Humanity, designed by the students and then put on display at the Figge the week prior to the Gala. It was a moving display. The student doors were auctioned at the Gala for a total of $2,000.

The Opening Doors Gala is a fun event, but there are always very emotional moments. Some of the people who are most engaged in this issue have experienced violence in their own lives. In fact, almost everyone knows someone – a friend or family member – who has experienced domestic violence.

The Gala is organized by a committee of amazing volunteers who worked very hard this year. We can’t do this without them. This year’s committee included:

  • Debi Butler (co-chair)
  • Jenni Venema (co-chair)
  • Jodi Blackwell
  • Lynne Dvorak
  • Audra Foley
  • Jacki Guinn
  • Amy Hultquist
  • Barb Johnson
  • Beth Hamel Kennedy
  • Ann Lohmuller
  • Kathy Mirocha
  • Jody Ruhl
  • Beth Tinsman
  • Melissa von Maur
  • Dana Wilkinson

Doors with messages of hope and courage for domestic violence victims, designed by area students, were on display at the Figge for a week prior to the Gala. Viewers were moved by the doors, and bid a total of $2,000 for them in a silent auction Friday evening.

It’s the mark of a wonderful community when so many people would support an event and a cause like this, and would donate $75,000 in one evening to help others in their moment of need. Recently, some domestic violence survivors were talking together, and they each agreed that when they think of Family Resources they think of “safety.” One survivor said that even when she was trapped in a violent relationship, it gave her peace of mind to know that Family Resources was there when she needed us.

We are here, and thanks to the people who supported our Gala last Friday, our Domestic Violence Shelter will continue to provide a safe place when victims decide that the moment has arrived to become a survivor.


Domestic Violence and New Beginnings: Wrestling Legend Dan Gable to Deliver Keynote Address in Muscatine April 14

March 20, 2012

Dan Gable’s family was devastated in 1964 when his 19-year old sister was raped and murdered. Although he channeled his grief in a productive way to become one of Iowa’s wrestling legends, the tragedy had a profound impact on his life.

Forty-seven years later, Dan will deliver the keynote address at the Family Resources New Beginnings on Saturday, April 14, 2012 at Geneva Golf and Country Club in Muscatine. The event begins at 6:00 p.m. and includes a Royal Lock Box, live and silent auctions, a 50/50 raffle, grid items, door prizes, cash bar, interactive food stations and more.

It’s a wonderful evening with a very serious and important subject – benefitting the Family Resources Sexual Assault/Domestic Abuse Advocacy Programs, Muscatine Domestic Violence Shelter, and “New Beginnings” Fund Sponsorships.

Family Resources provides victims services programs that helped 30,878 individuals during the past year who were forced to flee their abusers and seek the safety of our two domestic violence shelters located in Muscatine and the Quad Cities.

The “New Beginnings” Fund provides direct support for victims of domestic violence.

In this clip from a powerful and moving documentary by ESPN Classic, Dan Gable discusses his family’s ordeal:


I hope you’ll plan to be part of this amazing evening in Muscatine to hear Dan’s message personally.

If you’d like to attend on April 14, click here to register.

If you can’t attend but would like to donate, please click this link to donate using our secure online form. There are many other ways of supporting our efforts – find out more.


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