Iowa Proposes Changes in Funding for Domestic Violence/Sexual Assault Services

October 10, 2012

Family Resources is working with social services agencies across a 14-county area in Eastern Iowa to plan for a change in the way the state funds domestic violence and sexual assault services.

After a decade of sustained losses, a federal funding cut of 14% this year has created a significant deficit in Iowa’s response to victims of violent crime. Combined with last year’s 10% cut in state funding, some sexual assault and domestic violence programs throughout Iowa are facing closure.

The Crime  Victim Assistance Division of the Iowa Attorney General’s Office includes regionalization of services that are funded. Iowa has been divided into six regions. Organizations in each region have been charged with the task of regional service plans based on a funding formula that will include four comprehensive service contracts for each region.

The service contracts include:

  • Shelter-based services
  • Domestic abuse comprehensive services
  • Sexual abuse comprehensive services
  • Culturally specific services

In short, there isn’t enough money to go around, so the Crime Victim Assistance Division believes we can continue to provide quality services to crime victims if changes are made in the way the services are delivered – through “cost-savings and efficiencies.”

In August, staff from the Division met with program directors from each region to discuss the proposal. Follow-up meetings in our region will continue through December. Family Resources is in the Southeast region, which stretches from Clinton to Keokuk and includes the Quad Cities, Muscatine and Burlington. To the West the region also includes Iowa City.

Our primary concern is the victim. We’re committed to developing a regional plan that meets the needs of people – primarily women and children – who need a safe place to escape violence or counseling and therapy to recover from violence and abuse. They have endured traumatic injuries – emotional and physical – and we don’t want to see them undergo further hardship.

Members of our staff are working with other organizations on a regular basis. The Crime Victim Assistance Division will be holding community meetings in our area soon to gather input from the public. You can check back here for details or through our Facebook page at www.facebook.com/FamRes.

We’ll keep you informed on community meeting times and locations and on further developments in the state’s plans.


Sexual Violence Survivor Stories Stir Emotions at Family Resources Honor the Women Luncheon

September 28, 2012

Nearly 400 donors and sponsors attended the Family Resources Honor the Women luncheon on Thursday, Sept. 27, 2012.

Photos of survivors were projected on screens at the Quad-Cities Waterfront Convention Center yesterday. Each photo — seven women and one man — carried with it a powerful story of sexual violence and the victims who struggle with recovery.

Through Anne Ream, these victims have found a voice.
Nearly 400 donors and sponsors attended our Honor the Women luncheon — an annual event to raise funds for our QC Rape/Sexual Assault Counseling and Advocacy Program. As government funding continues to shrink, and as Iowa is consolidating services around the state, there has never been a more important time for caring people in our communities to come forward to help those who are trying so hard to reclaim their lives after having their bodies, their self-esteem, and their sense of safety violated.
Anne is a Chicago-based writer, a survivor of rape who founded The Voices and Faces Project, a national documentary that puts voices and faces on the women (and men) who have suffered sexual violence.

Anne Ream delivers the keynote address at our Honor the Women luncheon.

In a video clip from the event (below), Anne talks about the need for all of us to be compassionate listeners when someone confides that they have been victimized. The first thing you say can be very important.
At the end of Anne’s presentation, singer/songwriter Michelle Anthony performed her song, “White Lies,” as more survivor photos were shown. There were tears and sniffles at tables throughout the room — a moving moment for everyone.
I’d like to thank the committee for their hard work to organize this successful event:
  • Laura Swift, Chair
  • Dee James
  • Harold Mire
  • Jenifer Schermer
  • Sarah Reemtsma
  • Tracy Schwind
  • Rachel Hawes
  • Rod Ossowski
  • Sharon Sarver
  • Ken Gullette
  • Shawn Zambrano

Laura Swift, the committee chair, did an outstanding job as our emcee at the luncheon. She brought passion and compassion to the event, and has worked very hard during the past year to make it successful.

Anne Ream signs a CD of Michelle Anthony’s music for an attendee after the luncheon.

We’re also grateful for the support of our sponsors — Presenting Sponsors Northwest Bank & Trust Company, Quad Cities Investment Group, and POSH Home — Host Sponsor Isle Casino Hotel Bettendorf — Print Sponsor Davenport Printing Company, and Media Sponsor WHBF-TV.

Our efforts to end sexual violence — and to help victims recover their lives — don’t stop at the end of this event. Women throughout the Quad Cities area are becoming victims every day. For every one that comes forward, at least seven suffer in silence. Family Resources provides a safe place to get support, whether it’s medical advocacy, counseling, legal advocacy — and we need the support of Quad Citians throughout the year to ensure that we are able to keep providing these important services.

Laura Swift, chair of the Honor the Women Committee, moved the audience with her remarks after Michelle Anthony’s haunting music and video presentation.

Earlier this year, a woman who took her children away from a sexually abusive home, spoke at our Take Back the Night rally and said when she found Family Resources, “my life began.”

If you have suffered sexual violence, it is very difficult to recover on your own. We are here for you when you are ready. And as Anne Ream clearly demonstrated at our Honor the Women luncheon, a life of joy is still possible. We want to help make it happen.


A Voice for Victims of Sexual Violence and the Path to Healing – An Interview with Anne Ream

September 26, 2012
Anne Ream is the keynote speaker at tomorrow’s Honor the Women luncheon, an annual event that raises funds to support the QC Rape/Sexual Assault Counseling & Advocacy Program.
 
Anne is a writer based in Chicago. She is a survivor who embarked on an important mission when she started The Voices and Faces Project, a national documentary that allows victims and survivors to talk about what happened to them and all the issues surrounding the crime and the recovery.
 
We recorded an audio interview with Anne last week and I’m including a link here to the mp3 file. Please download it and listen to it on your computer or your iPod or mp3 player.
 
Among the issues Anne discusses are:
·   How she is giving a forum to help with healing
·   How she answers the question – how do you go from being a victim to being a survivor?
·   One of the most important human rights issues in our nation – sex trafficking – and why it is not a victimless crime as some people believe
·   Why the first words you say in response are so crucial to someone who confides in you that they have been victimized
·   Why victims should not suffer in silence.
 
Anne Ream is an amazing woman whose story is one of courage, survival, and triumph. We all are looking forward to seeing her moving presentation tomorrow.

KWQC Meteorologists Erik Maitland and Kevin Phelps Head Over Heels for Family Resources

September 4, 2012

Meteorologist Kevin Phelps (left) and Chief Meteorologist Erik Maitland model high heels in support of our “Walk A Mile in Her Shoes” event coming up October 13.

Erik Maitland and Kevin Phelps look great in high heels.

We’ve always known that Erik has a great sense of humor and cares for the community, but when we asked him if he would pose in high heels to help promote our “Walk A Mile in Her Shoes,” he loved the idea and asked fellow meteorologist Kevin Phelps to join him. 

Size 12 was the largest shoe we could find, so we knew they would have to weather some pain, but after only a brief struggle, they got the shoes on and posed on the news set. Videographer Greg Armstrong shot video of Erik and Kevin trying to walk and it was shown at the end of the 10 O’Clock news on Wednesday night. 
Watch for a flyer soon – I’ll post a copy here on the blog. 

Erik Maitland in a pose you don’t often see on KWQC-TV6.

This “photo op” might be catching on. A local football coach has agreed to pose for us, and we’re working on more. So stay tuned to this blog and our Facebook page (link) for more photos in the next month or so.

Walk A Mile in Her Shoes is a men’s march to stop rape, sexual assault and gender violence. On the morning of October 13th, at Schwiebert Park in downtown Rock Island, men will put on women’s shoes and walk across the Centennial Bridge.
It’s a lot of fun for a good idea, and we hope to get a lot of guys out to walk. For more details, follow this link.
We all want to thank Erik and Kevin for having the compassion and the self-esteem to do this for the women of our community and for Family Resources.
 

Take Back the Night Delivers Powerful Messages Against Sexual Assault and Violence

April 27, 2012

The audience at Take Back the Night was moved by the story of a survivor, Amy, whose children had been sexually abused by their father.

A survivor of domestic abuse – whose children were sexually abused by their father – gave an emotional and moving account of her family’s story at our annual Take Back the Night event last night at Schwiebert Park in downtown Rock Island.

Take Back the Night is held for survivors of sexual assault and other violent crimes. These are crimes that happen in every culture, every income level, and it is very difficult to recover on your own.

That’s why Family Resources is here – to connect victims with programs, services, and community resources that will help in their recovery. One of our other goals is to raise awareness that sexual assault and any other type of violence or assault — whether on a date or in a relationship or marriage – is not to be tolerated.

There were many booths at Take Back the Night, giving information on services, give free t-shirts and safety whistles, and more.

Amy, the survivor who told her story to the crowd last night, found Family Resources and said at that moment, “my life began.”

Her story moved some in the audience to tears. On a beautiful April evening with a crowd that included many children, everyone was quiet while Amy told her story about the horrible secret her children finally shared with her, and the steps she took to escape with her children to a place of safety.

Tables and booths lined the sidewalks around the park, each with information or giveaways. Jeff James was the emcee for the evening, with music provided by the band Borrowed Time. A self-defense demonstration was conducted by Sensei Fred Lepley and students from Shorinji Kempo in Davenport.

There was a touch of fun throughout the event – including face painting for kids – but there were also emotional displays, including t-shirts hung by The Clothesline Project, each with messages from children and other survivors of sexual assault and domestic violence.

The march at the end of the Take Back the Night event was on the bike path next to the Mississippi River, with people carrying signs to stop sexual assault and violence of all kinds.

We deeply appreciate those involved in this important event, and we appreciate the coverage by the local news media. The Argus/Dispatch did a story that’s also online, and the Quad-City Times did a story on the front page of today’s newspaper. All of the local TV stations covered the event. Our community is fortunate that the news media helps to get messages like this out to their readers, viewers and listeners, because many people in their audience are suffering, and many have not received help.

Our crisis line is always open. This link will take you to the phone numbers in Illinois, Iowa, and Muscatine.

We would love to see an end to sexual assault and violence. In the meantime, we want all victims to understand that we’re here to help them start a new life – as we were for Amy – so that they, too, can become survivors in a life without abuse and assault. It’s a life that we all deserve.


Wear Jeans to Work Tomorrow on Denim Day – Wednesday, April 25

April 24, 2012

Tomorrow is Denim Day across the country. We’re encouraging everyone to wear jeans to work to call attention to the fact that there is no excuse for sexual assault.

Denim Day grew out of worldwide outrage after an Italian court struck down a rape conviction because the woman had been wearing tight jeans. The court decided that the jeans were so tight, the victim must have helped remove them.

A lot of excuses are used in cases like these, but there is no excuse. Denim Day makes that point. If you visit Family Resources offices tomorrow, you’ll see a lot of staff in jeans.

The Muscatine Journal ran a story today showing Michelle Kurz from our Muscatine office and Ashley Loveless from Trinity New Horizons at a booth they set up on the campus of Muscatine Community College. They talked with students and handed out information about Denim Day and sexual assault.

Family Resources has programs in the Quad Cities and Muscatine that work to prevent sexual assault and to help victims recover. Click this to read the Muscatine Journal story.


April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month — Upcoming Events and a Video from IowaCASA

April 11, 2012

Family Resources is dedicated to preventing and stopping sexual assault in our communities, and helping to provide and coordinate treatment and recovery services for victims.

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. During this time, we conduct events and awareness campaigns to bring light to the problem, which exists in every community and through all walks of life.

A couple of the activities this month include:

Denim Day – to be observed on Wednesday, April 25. On this day, we encourage people to wear jeans to work. This is the result of an Italian court ruling that overturned a rape conviction because the victim was wearing tight jeans. In a ruling that outraged the world, the court decided that the victim must have helped remove her own jeans. Click here for more information.

Take Back the Night — to be held Thursday, April 26 starting at 6:00 p.m. at Schwiebert Park in downtown Rock Island. Click here for more information.

We’ll talk more on this blog about these events as they approach.

To help raise awareness during Sexual Assault Awareness Month, the Iowa Coalition Against Sexual Assault (IowaCASA) has developed a video. Some of our staff appear in the video – Nicole Cisne Durbin, Jackie Gonzalez, and Michelle Kurz.

Please watch this video and pass the link to this post to anyone who would be interested.


Video – Illinois Lt. Gov. Sheila Simon Holds News Conference at Family Resources Moline Office in Support of Strip Club Patron Fee

April 3, 2012

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