Take Back the Night Delivers Powerful Messages Against Sexual Assault and Violence

April 27, 2012

The audience at Take Back the Night was moved by the story of a survivor, Amy, whose children had been sexually abused by their father.

A survivor of domestic abuse – whose children were sexually abused by their father – gave an emotional and moving account of her family’s story at our annual Take Back the Night event last night at Schwiebert Park in downtown Rock Island.

Take Back the Night is held for survivors of sexual assault and other violent crimes. These are crimes that happen in every culture, every income level, and it is very difficult to recover on your own.

That’s why Family Resources is here – to connect victims with programs, services, and community resources that will help in their recovery. One of our other goals is to raise awareness that sexual assault and any other type of violence or assault — whether on a date or in a relationship or marriage – is not to be tolerated.

There were many booths at Take Back the Night, giving information on services, give free t-shirts and safety whistles, and more.

Amy, the survivor who told her story to the crowd last night, found Family Resources and said at that moment, “my life began.”

Her story moved some in the audience to tears. On a beautiful April evening with a crowd that included many children, everyone was quiet while Amy told her story about the horrible secret her children finally shared with her, and the steps she took to escape with her children to a place of safety.

Tables and booths lined the sidewalks around the park, each with information or giveaways. Jeff James was the emcee for the evening, with music provided by the band Borrowed Time. A self-defense demonstration was conducted by Sensei Fred Lepley and students from Shorinji Kempo in Davenport.

There was a touch of fun throughout the event – including face painting for kids – but there were also emotional displays, including t-shirts hung by The Clothesline Project, each with messages from children and other survivors of sexual assault and domestic violence.

The march at the end of the Take Back the Night event was on the bike path next to the Mississippi River, with people carrying signs to stop sexual assault and violence of all kinds.

We deeply appreciate those involved in this important event, and we appreciate the coverage by the local news media. The Argus/Dispatch did a story that’s also online, and the Quad-City Times did a story on the front page of today’s newspaper. All of the local TV stations covered the event. Our community is fortunate that the news media helps to get messages like this out to their readers, viewers and listeners, because many people in their audience are suffering, and many have not received help.

Our crisis line is always open. This link will take you to the phone numbers in Illinois, Iowa, and Muscatine.

We would love to see an end to sexual assault and violence. In the meantime, we want all victims to understand that we’re here to help them start a new life – as we were for Amy – so that they, too, can become survivors in a life without abuse and assault. It’s a life that we all deserve.


Wear Jeans to Work Tomorrow on Denim Day – Wednesday, April 25

April 24, 2012

Tomorrow is Denim Day across the country. We’re encouraging everyone to wear jeans to work to call attention to the fact that there is no excuse for sexual assault.

Denim Day grew out of worldwide outrage after an Italian court struck down a rape conviction because the woman had been wearing tight jeans. The court decided that the jeans were so tight, the victim must have helped remove them.

A lot of excuses are used in cases like these, but there is no excuse. Denim Day makes that point. If you visit Family Resources offices tomorrow, you’ll see a lot of staff in jeans.

The Muscatine Journal ran a story today showing Michelle Kurz from our Muscatine office and Ashley Loveless from Trinity New Horizons at a booth they set up on the campus of Muscatine Community College. They talked with students and handed out information about Denim Day and sexual assault.

Family Resources has programs in the Quad Cities and Muscatine that work to prevent sexual assault and to help victims recover. Click this to read the Muscatine Journal story.


Video – Dan Gable and the Impact of Domestic Violence

April 20, 2012

Iowa wrestling legend Dan Gable delivered the keynote address at the Family Resources New Beginnings event in Muscatine on Saturday, April 14, 2012. He discussed the tragedy of his sister Diane’s murder, the impact it had on his life, and the perspective it gave him on the importance of family. This video shows the highlights of his speech.


A Salute to Our Volunteers – We Couldn’t Do It Without Them

April 19, 2012

Volunteers help keep us moving forward, providing valuable services for Family Resources. On the United Way's Day of Caring last August, a group of Deere & Company employees came to help in a variety of ways, including painting some of the residence halls.

As you can see from some of the blog posts this week, we’ve had two of our big annual events in the past few days — the Opening Doors Gala in Davenport and New Beginnings in Muscatine. These were very successful events that drew hundreds of people and raised a lot of money for our Domestic Violence Shelters, domestic violence programs and New Beginnings fund.

Both of these events are successful because of the hard work of our volunteers.

This is National Volunteer Week. I believe we should always let them know how much we appreciate them, but since it’s the official Week, and in the wake of these two great events, it’s a good time to stop and give them a special message of thanks.

Family Resources has 300 volunteers who help us provide programs and services to those who need them. From mentoring youth to being on call for our victim services as hospitals and police stations call for our assistance  – we rely on the caring spirit, kindness, and hard work of our volunteers.

In fact, when you reflect on that number — 300 people in our community that would devote time and energy to our organization –it’s pretty amazing.

Some volunteers are called “episodic” volunteers. We can usually expect them to drop by for projects such as painting — the type of project that improves the atmosphere but takes time and energy. When volunteers help, it eases a lot of stress on our staff and provides other benefits, including a more pleasant and soothing place to live and work. It’s interesting what a positive impact even one coat of paint can make on children, clients, and staff.

Other volunteers can be seen more regularly, doing a variety of tasks that help us operate smoothly, including the victim services advocate who helps survivors build their future and holds their hands when they need it most, and the ladies who mentor our girls to teach them how to overcome adversity and strive for a successful future.

There are many more examples of selfless acts performed by volunteers who care deeply about people who need to find balance, safety, and a better way. These are stories I want to tell on this blog as we go forward.

Another volunteer group is our Board of Directors — made up of 12 volunteers from around the community, each bringing his or her own expertise and insights to the organization.

We also have four committees that organize our four major events: the Opening Doors Gala, New Beginnings, the DOVE Women’s Golf Tournament, and Honor the Women luncheon. Each committee has its own unique collection of skills and personalities, bringing together some of the community’s best and brightest, each working for a cause they care about.

At a time when funding is uncertain and the economy continues to struggle, the number of people who need our programs and services is growing larger, not smaller. Our volunteers help us keep moving forward. To each one of them, we say thank you.


Opening Doors Gala Raises $75,000 for Family Resources Domestic Violence Shelter

April 17, 2012

Jim Russell volunteered as auctioneer for our Opening Doors Gala, encouraging bidders as we raised $75,000 for our Domestic Violence Shelter.

Our Opening Doors Gala last Friday night at the Figge Art Museum brought together 250 of our friends and donors staff for a fun evening that raised $75,000 to benefit our Domestic Violence Shelter. We are very grateful for all those who made the Gala such great success!

The highlights of the evening included a live auction featuring Colorado resort vacations, luxury iWireless Center suites for upcoming events, and other items, and a silent auction was held throughout the evening as people bid on elaborately painted doors from area students.

Bidders raised their numbers, competing for some great items and donating to a serious cause.

Jim Russell served as the emcee and auctioneer for Friday’s event. Each person was given a number when they checked in, and they held up their numbers when they wanted to make a bid. There was a lot of laughter and action during the auction, as Jim walked through the hall encouraging people to give to bid higher. Everyone was aware that the real focus wasn’t the item they were bidding on — it’s the safety and support they would provide for women and children in the Quad Cities who — right now — are wondering where they will turn to escape a violent domestic situation.

Auction items included:

  • Three separate vacations at the Summit Peaks North Lodge about 60 miles west of Denver, Colorado, donated by Brad and Sandy Foreman.
  • Admission to the Wells Fargo Suite at the iWireless Center for the Ringling Brothers Circus, donated by Wells Fargo.
  • An exclusive Chicago White Sox package featuring an Alex Rios #51 signed bat, four game tickets, parking pass, and a special message on the scoreboard, donated by the Chicago White Sox.
  • 4 VIP Passes, parking, and the UnitedHealthcare Suite at the John Deere Classic, including Meet the Pro/Autograph opportunity and more, donated by John Deere Classic.
  • Admission to the Midland Information Resources Suite at the iWireless Center for the Jason Aldean concert, including 8 tickets and food, donated by Midland Information Resources.

Brad and Sandy Foreman donated three resort vacations in Colorado, which raised a total of $12,400 during the live auction.

Messages of hope, courage, and new beginnings were painted on doors by area students. The doors were donated by Habitat for Humanity, designed by the students and then put on display at the Figge the week prior to the Gala. It was a moving display. The student doors were auctioned at the Gala for a total of $2,000.

The Opening Doors Gala is a fun event, but there are always very emotional moments. Some of the people who are most engaged in this issue have experienced violence in their own lives. In fact, almost everyone knows someone – a friend or family member – who has experienced domestic violence.

The Gala is organized by a committee of amazing volunteers who worked very hard this year. We can’t do this without them. This year’s committee included:

  • Debi Butler (co-chair)
  • Jenni Venema (co-chair)
  • Jodi Blackwell
  • Lynne Dvorak
  • Audra Foley
  • Jacki Guinn
  • Amy Hultquist
  • Barb Johnson
  • Beth Hamel Kennedy
  • Ann Lohmuller
  • Kathy Mirocha
  • Jody Ruhl
  • Beth Tinsman
  • Melissa von Maur
  • Dana Wilkinson

Doors with messages of hope and courage for domestic violence victims, designed by area students, were on display at the Figge for a week prior to the Gala. Viewers were moved by the doors, and bid a total of $2,000 for them in a silent auction Friday evening.

It’s the mark of a wonderful community when so many people would support an event and a cause like this, and would donate $75,000 in one evening to help others in their moment of need. Recently, some domestic violence survivors were talking together, and they each agreed that when they think of Family Resources they think of “safety.” One survivor said that even when she was trapped in a violent relationship, it gave her peace of mind to know that Family Resources was there when she needed us.

We are here, and thanks to the people who supported our Gala last Friday, our Domestic Violence Shelter will continue to provide a safe place when victims decide that the moment has arrived to become a survivor.


Figge Art Talk Spotlights Compassion of Student Artists

April 13, 2012

Representatives from Rivermont Collegiate from left to right: Colleen McCarty, Nell Meier, Meghana Yerrapothu, Lauren Sears, and Lana Meier. They assisted 1st, 2nd, and 3rd graders design their door.

Last night’s Figge Art Talk brought together student artists and other representatives from area schools that designed doors for our Family Resources Opening Doors Gala.

For the past week, doors from student artists have been on display in the lobby of the Figge Art Museum in Davenport.
It is a moving display, with messages of hope, courage, and the New Beginning that happens in the lives of women and children who are able to escape domestic violence.
It’s our mission at Family Resources to be there for them and provide the shelter and safety they need, and the resources to move forward into a new life free from the pain and oppression of domestic abuse.
Through the imaginations and talent of student artists, this message came through in powerful and very creative ways.

Mary Reeves and Saharra Rangel of Davenport Central High with their door, which encouraged victims of domestic abuse to "Imagine" a better life.

At the Figge Art Talk, Mary Reeves and Saharra Rangel from Davenport Central High School talked about how honored they were to be part of the project, and so happy to provide hope and inspiration for domestic abuse survivors.

At Rivermont Collegiate, a beautiful door was designed by 1st, 2nd, and 3rd graders. Last night, the children were at another school activity but they were represented by Colleen McCarty, Nell Meier, Meghana Yerrapothu, Lauren Sears, and Lana Meier. The children used the book “The Little House” as their inspiration. They learned that a happy home provides a solid foundation. Meghana said the students “had their own learning experience along the way.”
The door from Assumption High School has 32 “little doors” on it, each designed by students to open and reveal a different message of hope and courage. Rebecca Mallon and Ellie Simpson were two of the artists at the event last night. They were excited about the personal expression that each student conveyed through their own little door.

Brian White, art instructor and counselor at Wittenmyer Learning Center, explains how the Opening Doors project helped his students.

Brian White, art teacher and counselor at the Wittenmyer Learning Center, showed a door designed by his students. He explained that for some students, the door triggered a positive response. At least one student became more engaged in the project than he usually does in classroom activities.

This is the type of project that resonates with some students, who may have experiences in their own families of domestic violence. In a work of art, they can express what they’re feeling inside. In the end, it’s a therapeutic exercise.

I’d like to thank all the schools that designed doors for our Opening Doors Gala:
  • Assumption High School
  • Augustana College
  • Bettendorf High School
  • Black Hawk College
  • Davenport Central High School
  • Davenport North High School
  • Pleasant Valley High School
  • Rivermont Collegiate
  • Wittenmyer Learning Center

Ellie Simpson (left) and Rebecca Mallon display the Assumption High School door, which has 32 smaller doors, each opening to a message of hope and courage from student artists.

We’re all grateful to the Figge Art Museum for their support, and to Habitat for Humanity for donating the doors. Habitat also decorated a door for the display.

Tonight’s Gala at the Figge is going to be an exciting and emotional evening. The doors will be auctioned to support the Domestic Violence Shelter. They will truly help to open doors for many women and children in the QCA who look to Family Resources to be here when they need us.
Thanks to our donors, partners, and volunteers, we are here.

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month — Upcoming Events and a Video from IowaCASA

April 11, 2012

Family Resources is dedicated to preventing and stopping sexual assault in our communities, and helping to provide and coordinate treatment and recovery services for victims.

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. During this time, we conduct events and awareness campaigns to bring light to the problem, which exists in every community and through all walks of life.

A couple of the activities this month include:

Denim Day – to be observed on Wednesday, April 25. On this day, we encourage people to wear jeans to work. This is the result of an Italian court ruling that overturned a rape conviction because the victim was wearing tight jeans. In a ruling that outraged the world, the court decided that the victim must have helped remove her own jeans. Click here for more information.

Take Back the Night — to be held Thursday, April 26 starting at 6:00 p.m. at Schwiebert Park in downtown Rock Island. Click here for more information.

We’ll talk more on this blog about these events as they approach.

To help raise awareness during Sexual Assault Awareness Month, the Iowa Coalition Against Sexual Assault (IowaCASA) has developed a video. Some of our staff appear in the video – Nicole Cisne Durbin, Jackie Gonzalez, and Michelle Kurz.

Please watch this video and pass the link to this post to anyone who would be interested.


Video – Setup of the Door Display at Figge Art Museum for Family Resources Opening Doors Gala 2012

April 7, 2012

As we approach our Family Resources Opening Doors Gala on Friday, April 13th, the staff at the Figge Art Museum set up a display of doors decorated by area students and donated by Habitat for Humanity, which also designed their own door. All the doors will be auctioned off at the event.

This video shows the display as it was set up, and explains why this is such an important event. Proceeds help to support our Domestic Violence Shelter. You can find registration information on our website. We appreciate the support of our volunteers, partner organizations and donors as we work to provide a safe place for women and children who find themselves in dangerous situations and in need of a place to turn.


Paula Sands Live Segment on Family Resources Opening Doors Gala 2012

April 7, 2012

Looking over the director's shoulder in the control room during Paula Sands Live at KWQC-TV on Friday, April 6, 2012. This was taken during Nicole Cisne Durbin's live appearance to talk about the Family Resources Opening Doors Gala coming up on April 13th.

Paula Sands and producer Jake Eastburn invited Nicole Cisne Durbin to appear on Friday’s Paula Sands Live program on KWQC-TV.

As they showed video of the amazing doors designed by artists at area schools — doors donated by Habitat for Humanity — Nicole talked about the Family Resources Opening Doors Gala being held this Friday night, April 13th at the Figge Art Museum.

The video shows the Figge staff setting up the display on Thursday. The doors will be on display until the Gala, then they will each be auctioned off. Proceeds from the evening will support the Family Resources Domestic Violence Shelter.

I’d like to thank Paula, Jake, and meteorologist Erik Maitland for their hospitality and their support for the work we do to provide safety to women and children throughout our area.

Follow this link to watch Nicole’s segment:

http://www.kwqc.com/category/231919/video-landing-page?clipId=6917411&autostart=true

 


New Beginnings in Muscatine Saturday, April 14 — Registration Information and Video Highlights from Last Year’s Event

April 5, 2012

New Beginnings will be held at the Geneva Golf and Country Club in Muscatine on Saturday evening, April 14, 2012. Among the activities:

  • Interactive food stations
  • Cash bar
  • Royal lock box
  • Live and silent auctions
  • 50/50 raffle
  • Grid items
  • Door prizes
  • much more

It’s a wonderful evening for an important cause — a benefit for Family Resources Sexual Assault/Domestic Abuse Advocacy Programs, Muscatine Domestic Violence Shelter, and “New Beginnings” Fund Sponsorships. Keynote speaker this year is Dan Gable, the Iowa wrestling legend whose sister was assaulted and murdered at age 19. His family’s tragedy had a profound impact that is still being felt decades later.

Register online and join us for an event that will help many women and children in the Muscatine area find shelter, safety, and a place to turn for hope and a new beginning.

Enjoy this video of last year’s New Beginnings highlights. We look forward to seeing you on the 14th.

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