DOVE Women’s Golf Tournament Takes a Swing Against Domestic Violence

June 11, 2013
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Sarah Reemtsma of Royal Neighbors of America tees off at the shotgun start of the DOVE Women’s Golf Tournament.

It was a great day for golf last Friday as 144 women from around the Quad Cities area teed off at the Palmer Hills Golf Course in Bettendorf. The annual DOVE Women’s Golf Tournament raises funds for our Domestic Violence Shelter. DOVE stands for “Domestic Violence Ended.”

This is a wonderful event with a lot of laughter and a chance to get outdoors for a good cause. Golfers arrived early for the 8 a.m. shotgun start, when the foursomes took off in their carts to their assigned holes. Teams paid extra for mulligans and for a golf pro to tee off or putt for the team on one of the holes. Lujack Mitsubishi sponsored a Hole-in-One Contest on the 13th hole. No one claimed it this year.

At the end of play, a luncheon was held at the outdoor pavilion catered by our Culinary Kids. Following lunch, prizes were awarded for contests such as winners of the longest putt, longest drive and closest to the pin. Prize drawings were held for nearly a dozen donated items such as a Chocolate Delight basket and a Necklace & Massage. A silent auction was also held for items such as a Quad City River Bandits Dugout Suite, an Escape to the Hotel Blackhawk, a John Deere Battery Operated Gator, and more.

The 50/50 Raffle was won by Char McGovern, who split more than $500 with Family Resources.

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Cody Tucker of B100 gives Char McGovern a “thumbs up” after she won the 50/50 Raffle at the luncheon following the DOVE Women’s Golf Tournament.

This special “ladies only” tournament raises critically needed funds to continue the programs and services that provide a safe place for women and children who have fled their homes because of domestic violence. The final number hasn’t been tallied, but the tournament raised over $31,000. We thank our volunteer committee members for working so hard over many months to organize the event – also thanks to our sponsors, our in-kind donors, and to the generous, fun group of women who came out to support us for this wonderful event.

Committee Members

Janelle Carter (Chair)

Cathy Edwards

Kerri Freidman

Abbey Furlong

Rachel Lawrence

JoEllen Peace

Caitlin Russell

Tiffany Stott

Eagle Sponsors

HyVee

Isabel Bloom

River City Tire

Edwards Creative

Media Sponsors

B100

Star 93.5

Quad-City Times

WQAD-TV8

Birdie Sponsors

IH Mississippi Valley Credit Union

Midland Information Resources

Royal Neighbors of America

Toltec Incorporated

Par Sponsors

Dr. Krutzfeldt

Russell Construction

Quad City Bank & Trust

Iowa American Water

Evans Premium Manufacturing

DuTrac Community Credit Union

Crestwood Capital Management, Inc.

Associate Sponsors

J.W. Koehler Electric

Harrington Signal, Inc.

Builders Sand & Cement Company

KJWW Engineering Consultants

NAI Ruhl & Ruhl Commercial Company

Hole-In-One Sponsor

Lujack Mitsubishi

In-Kind Donors

Molyneaux Insurance, Inc.

Hornbuckle Heating & Air Conditioning

First Midwest Bank

The Clubhouse

Quad City River Bandits

Hotel Blackhawk

Deere & Company

Davenport Parks & Recreation

Caring Hands Therapeutic Massage

The Outing Club

Two Gems Jewelry

Panera Bread

Barrel House

Jersey Grille

Skin Dimensions

Dunn Bros Coffee

Papa Murphy’s

Waterpark Car Wash

Sentry Insurance

Palmer Hills

Becky David


A New Resource to Understand Our Number One Public Health Issue — Trauma

June 6, 2013

Guest Blogger –  Christine Gradert, Sr. Vice President, Family Resources

Many of the clients we see at Family Resources have suffered physical and emotional trauma from domestic violence, sexual assault, child abuse and neglect, and other experiences that leave deep and lasting scars on the body and the mind.

When children go through extreme trauma, it’s called an Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE). In recent years, various sciences and disciplines have come together – sociology, psychology, public health, the science of human brain development, and others – and a realization was made about how extreme stress experienced in childhood carries with it terrible consequences if it is not diagnosed and treated.

Most of us go through Adverse Childhood Experiences, but the ACE Study (co-sponsored by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention) developed a list of traumatic experiences and clearly revealed the correlation between the number of ACEs and the likelihood of health and social problems as a child grows into adulthood.

It makes perfect sense. If a child spends years wondering if the next footsteps coming down the hall are bringing pain and violence, it triggers a “fight or flight” syndrome, an intense physical and psychological reaction to survive. But it doesn’t just have to be violent abuse. Adverse Childhood Experiences can include neglect, sexual abuse, divorce, witnessing your mother being abused, parental drug and alcohol addiction, and more.

For many children who experience extreme trauma growing up, the body’s natural ability to regulate itself malfunctions. The child may remain in a constant fight or flight syndrome even in a safe place – a classroom, for example. Their bodies and minds perceive threats everywhere. They don’t believe they can trust anyone because the people in their lives who they were supposed to trust, such as their parents, have hurt them.

This explains a lot of the problems we see in our schools, on our streets, and in our society. We all pay a high price for physical and emotional trauma that is not diagnosed and treated. As teens and adults, those with more ACEs in their past fail to complete an education, find it difficult to find or keep a job, experience more domestic violence, emotional and health disorders, anger and violence, and suicide. They are more likely to need social services, welfare, healthcare, police involvement, and are incarcerated at higher rates. As taxpayers and as citizens hoping to live in strong communities, we all pay a price.

Family Resources works with some of the nation’s top experts in Trauma Informed Care. We are actively convening stakeholders in our community in professions that deal directly with trauma survivors – education, business, healthcare, the courts, social agencies, governments, and others – to develop our collective ability to recognize, diagnose, and treat children and adults who are suffering because of past trauma. Our goal is to build a Trauma Informed Care community.

Trauma touches all of us. It’s an issue that everyone should understand. To help, we have a new section on our website that includes background on Trauma Informed Care, links to the ACE Study, and video interviews with some of the nation’s leading experts. Visit the page at www.famres.org/tic.html.

How does intense trauma impact children? One of the experts we work closely with, Dr. Robert Macy, explains in this short video, part of an interview you can find on our website.

 


“Hall Stars” Shine at Wittenmyer Learning Center

May 21, 2013
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Zach Ebener gives Dane a hug at the first Hall Stars Awards Banquet for students at Family Resources Wittenmyer Learning Center.

Eight students at Wittenmyer Learning Center were honored at the first Hall Stars Banquet held recently in our gymnasium. These are students who come to us after overcoming serious life challenges but need more help before they can return to a traditional classroom setting.

Our teachers and staff work with them to make better decisions about their behavior, and the way they react to other people and situations. We also provide a safe environment. Students who have become accustomed to pain and betrayal learn that  those things are not going to happen here. It’s part of our Trauma Informed Care approach.

At the Hall Stars Banquet, students stood up individually as one of their teachers read a tribute about how hard each student has worked. Some of the teachers became emotional as they read to the audience, which was made up of students, members of their families, teachers and Family Resources staff.

For one student, David, teacher Racheal Wente wrote, “He has grown up a lot and matured as a young man. He has become much better in managing his emotions and stopping to consider his actions before he acts out. He has also tried more to communicate with his teachers when he is feeling upset.”

For another student, Kejuan, Zach Ebener wrote, “When Kejuan first came to Wittenmyer he had very little interest in socializing with both staff and peers. He was very quiet and often kept to himself. Since then, Kejuan has become more social with the other students in class and has done a great job of having positive interactions with peers.”

For student Tyrell, Rachel Cuppy wrote, “Tyrell used to act irresponsibly, skip classes and when he did come to school he would sleep through all of his classes. This past semester, Tyrell has really stepped it up and is completing most of his work. He smiles more and feeds into negative peers less. I am so very impressed with the change in this young man.”

Teachers were honored, too. Comments written by students were read to the audience.

About Cybrean Hubert, one student wrote, “He helps me think of the wrong I’ve done to others rather than what they have done to me.”

About Kara Kennedy, one student wrote, “She helps me if I’m angry. I can calm down if I talk with her.”

About Lisa Ewing, a student wrote, “She has always been honest with me. She keeps me in a good mood.”

Our teachers and staff are passionate about what they do because they often see students enter Wittenmyer Learning Center and our residential programs in desperate need of help but not wanting to be here. The transformation that often occurs as young people turn toward a more positive path for their lives is what keeps us coming back day after day, to strengthen our community one life at a time.


How Family Resources Opens Doors to A Safe Place for Women, Children, and Families

May 14, 2013

_I8A0554Our Opening Doors Gala was held recently at the Quad-Cities Waterfront Convention Center. Around 266 guests helped us raise more than $70,000 for our programs and services. Decker Ploehn served as the emcee and auctioneer and Ellis Kell provided music. It was a fun evening that also had its emotional moments.

Each day, our dedicated staff provides a safe place for women, children, and families. We would be unable to do it without the support of our donors and volunteers.

At the Gala, we showed a video that illustrates the impact Family Resources has on the lives of people we serve. You can see more than 30 photos from the Gala on our website, along with a list of sponsors and volunteer committee members who organized the Gala. Below is the video that was shown at the event. I hope you’ll take a few minutes to watch, then become involved in our mission as a donor, volunteer, or sponsor of a future event.


Family Resources — A Safe Place in Muscatine Iowa

April 23, 2013

I’d like to share a video with you that shows how Family Resources provides a safe place in Muscatine County for women, children, and families.

Throughout the communities we serve, thousands of people have experienced trauma that has a negative impact on their lives. Family Resources exists to help them heal and recover.

We unveiled this video at our New Beginnings event in Muscatine on April 6th. New Beginnings is an annual event that brings generous Muscatine folks together. Each year, they come through for us by opening their hearts and helping people like the ones you will meet in this video. If, after watching, you’d like to support us in Muscatine, go to our secure online donation page and make a contribution specifically for Muscatine, or contact us at (563) 468-2332.  All donations made to our Muscatine operations stay in Muscatine.


Behind the Scenes at Isabel Bloom – Creating “Unconditional Love” for the 2013 DOVE Women’s Golf Tournament

February 13, 2013

Donna Young, the designer and co-owner of Isabel Bloom, has created another wonderful sculpture for this year’s DOVE Women’s Golf Tournament. It depicts a little girl hugging her puppy and is titled “Unconditional Love.” Donna and her team have the ability to create sculptures that touch the emotions, and this year she has done it again.

"Unconditional Love" goes on sale March 23rd, 2013 at Isabel Bloom's Moline Showroom.

“Unconditional Love” goes on sale March 23rd, 2013 at Isabel Bloom’s Moline Showroom.

In the Limited Edition version, the dog is wearing a purple collar. Only 200 Limited Edition sculptures are being created and they will go on sale Saturday, March 23, 2013 at the Isabel Bloom Signing Event at the company’s Moline Showroom at 1505 River Drive. The Signing Event runs from 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. and Donna will sign each of the sculptures sold that day. Isabel Bloom is also donating 50% of the sculpture’s sale price to Family Resources domestic violence programs and services. It’s one of three activities held each year in conjunction with the DOVE Women’s Golf Tournament. DOVE stands for “Domestic Violence Ended” and also includes the golf tournament on  June 7th this year and Fill-the-Truck on June 22nd.

Have you ever seen an Isabel Bloom sculpture going through the production process? We produced a video showing the creation of “Unconditional Love” at Isabel Bloom’s Harborview Production Studio in Davenport. We are grateful to Donna and her talented crew.

I invite each person reading this to give “Unconditional Love” to someone you love on March 23rd.


Quad-City Times Editorial Urges Community to Support Family Resources

January 29, 2013

QCTlogoNEWColorA week ago, the Quad-City Times ran a story on sexual assault kits that have not been investigated by the Davenport Police Department. In about 80 percent of the cases, the evidence sits for years without an investigation. The horror of the assault and the stigma of a criminal case, where the victim is made to feel violated again and again, causes a lot of victims to suffer in silence. Investigators can only do so much if the victim does not step forward.

We work with the Davenport Police Department, which does an amazing job investigating cases, and our staff work with victims to help them recover their dignity, self-esteem and their lives.

The editorial board at the Quad-City Times recognized this and made the decision to run an editorial, praising our work with the Davenport Police Department and urging the community to support us in our goal to provide a safe place for victims of sexual violence. The paper recognizes that the answer to the problem of sexual assault already exists in the QCA. Readers are encouraged to support these efforts with financial gifts.

We were surprised and grateful when the editorial appeared in the paper on January 28. We know that the people who make up the editorial board truly care about our community, and on behalf of everyone at Family Resources, I’d like to offer them a public “thank you.”

Read the Quad-City Times editorial via this link.


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